LSU Grad. Sch., 1971-1973 |
UCB Grad, Sch., 1973-1975 |
Amboseli, Kenya, Summer 1975 |
UCB Grad. Sch., 1975-1977 |





In September of 1971, Cellie and I flew up to Washington DC for Lloyd's marriage to Pam Becker. It was a good trip for Cellie and me and we were relieved he had put his first marriage behind him.
During one Christmas, Louise and I drove to Mexico City, spending time in Cuernavaca and Taxco. She flew back from Mexico City and I drove back, following a mountaneous route through Tamazunchale (known as Thomas n Charlie) that Cellie and Marion had taken nearly 40 years earlier in their summer in Mexico. We also took a trip in August, 1972, to Grand Cayman in the Cayman Islands. The islands are British and unlike most of the rest of the Caribbean Islands, the residents are primarily Episcopalian and lived in these little picturesque, colorfully-painted cottages next to the beautiful Caribbean Sea. I have a tendency to lose rental car keys which I did at the far end of Grand Cayman. We got the owner of the rental cars happily drunk when he came with a spare set. But back at LSU, we drifted apart that fall. Louise had developed a cadre of psychology friends to do things with while I was busy with finishing my research at the university. During this time I went to visit Wilma, my Georgia sweetheart from my military days. She was as beautiful and as sweet as ever and had moved back to West Palm Beach in Florida. Wilma eventually settled down for good and married Joe Portman.
We came across a recovery operation for a body snagged on a log on the edge of the river, an image that has stayed in the back of my mind. And one night in Fred's Fish House in Mountain Home, Gene pointed out Gayle, a young pretty girl that he later ended up marrying. It was like "old times" when we lived in Crowley and roomed at LSU. I am so glad he made it safely back from Nam.
This was the summer of the Watergate hearings. We drank, partied, and watched the hearings. One of Dr. van den Bold's cars was parked below the garage and John put the other car in reverse. He said the brakes failed and the car smashed into the parked car. Meanwhile, it was a hot summer so we ran the AC a lot. The drain pan must have plugged up in the attic and water began to leak down through the ceiling. At some point, parts of the sheetrock in the ceiling began to fall down. I soon vacated the house. Van den Bold didn't yet know I was part of the wrecking crew and it was time to go! Later on as a professor, I never let graduate students house sit for me.
Bill Seyfried recounted a visit he made to Yale and told me that from where he stayed on campus, he could open his window and piss on the housing projects below. That did it! No way I was going to spend 4 years working above housing projects. Berkeley held the magic dream of California culture, lots of marijuana, and "loose - yes that was important!" hippy women. I accepted and got ready to go for the fall semester. Louise and I had gotten back together during the summer of 1973 and she wanted to drive with me as far as Houston. I'm not sure but I think she had a shopping trip planned for The Galleria in Houston (lol, known as The Gonorrhea in Louisiana). I packed up, told Cellie goodby and we drove to Houston where I dropped Louise off. I left on I10 in my white Vega, heading across West Texas, with "Born to be Wild" on the tape. I was 26 and ready for California!






In Europe, Mariyn and Karl took us to Heidelberg, just north of their home in Wiesloch to roam through the old city and walk along the Neckar River. I love that town and could visualize my grandfather (Al Sr) there as a student, drinking beer out of steins and fighting duels along the Neckar. (Did he really lose the tip of his tongue in a duel or was that just a family tale told to frighten Stoessell children not to stick their tongue out in a sword fight?) We saw my good friend Dorothea LaGraff in Aschaffenburg and then drove down to Switzerland to meet with Hans-Ruedi Pfeifer (later University of Lausanne Professor) and his wife Regula. I remember one night going out for dinner, and Louise stayed behind because she was tired. Marcella, Marilyn and Karl's daughter, was sleeping in the hotel room with Louise. When we came back that night, little Marcella had climbed up into Louise's arms and was sound asleep, cute as a bug in a rug. Louise said that she just suddenly crawled in. Switzerland was cool with the cows and their bells and their magnificent mountains. But we arrived at the Zurick Airport, just in time to see our Charter Flight disappear down the runway, without us. Somehow, I got the departure time mixed up - a not unusual Ron Stoessell moment but one that was not repeated when we returned to Europe months later. I parked Louise in the Airport lobby and rushed around to different airlines flying to Nairobi, Africa. Who would be foolish enough to accept our Charter Tickets? Wow, East African Airways was about to leave for Nairobi and had unsold seats and accepted them. In an hour we lifted off the runway for Nairobi. Everyone else on the flight, including the pilot, was a black African, making this an unusual experience in the 1970s for a white southern boy. The pilot was a tall, athletic-looking guy who looked competent, but I (of course) fanatasized him in full Maasai gear (loin cloth) chucking spears at the lions on the Serengeti Plain from the cockpit window. Well, he was a good pilot and we landed without incident at Nairobi.

Each banda had a smaller "cooking" hut to the rear containing a wood stove. There was no refrigeration and the electricity was sporatic at best, sometimes coming on at night to provide lights. Army cots served as beds. The other bandas were also occupied by academic researchers, principally psychologists studying animal behavior, biologists, and paleontologists looking at the geographic spread of animals, e.g., Kay Behrensmeyer who was there that summer as a graduate student from Harvard. For fresh food, we could buy bananas, avocados, and mangos at Old Tukai and buy meat on market day at the village of Loitokitok on the border. At the village, cattle were butchered and the meat sold out of wheelbarrows. Louise was particularly adept at bargaining with the natives for meat which (without refrigeration) had to be cooked the same day. I can visualize her waving Kenya shillings in a raised hand, pushing her way through the crowd surrounding the wheelbarrow stacked with bloody meat. She was tired of our staple diet of mangos and avocados. (I don't remember having access to eggs but certainly they must have been available?)
I spent the first week traveling the dirt roads to get a feel for the area. Close to Old Tukai, were tour vans, filled with tourists, relentlessly snapping pictures, but further out on the dirt roads, it was just the animals. Kay Behrensmeyer had a land rover, a more substantial car than my Toyota sedan and she took me around to places where she was observing animals. There were plenty of herds of antelope, zebra and gnus for the lions to feed on. The first day we pulled up to watch a lion finish off a gnu. The lion had knocked it down and slowly suffocated the animal by putting his muzzle over its mouth. Because the lion could't stay "on task", opening his muzzle to growl "small talk" to a lioness companion which allowed the gnu to occasionally grab a quick breath of air, the process took 30 "painful" minutes, and I was distressed. I wanted to blow the vehicle's horn to scare the lion to save the gnu. Captain Behrensmeyer would have none of it. She was like Captain Kirk on Star Trek - Follow the Prime Directive - Do not interfere! Oh, she was tough! A few days later, Louise and I were traveling a dirt road in a remote area of the park. Looking down the road was a large, young(?), bull elephant (with tusks) coming towards us. But he wasn't trumpeting, ears flapping, and charging with raised, swinging trunk. I didn't want to risk disabling the vehicle by driving off the road. So we had a game of road chicken as we closed in on each other. Surprisingly enough, the elephant got off the road. Today, I would have turned that car around and outrun him but at age 28, hormones got the better of me.




Those last two years at Berkeley were the most idyllic time of my life. I wasn't taking classes, just doing my research and enjoying life with Louise. We went camping with Beth and Jon Price and other graduate students in the High Sierra and Death Valley and saw those incredible desert sunrises and sunsets on the mountain passes.
In the summer of 1976, I received a second Penrose Grant to do geochemical research on sepiolite formation in Amargosa Playa, and spent several weeks traversing the High Sierra, traveling down through Death Valley and into Armagosa Desert in Nevada. It was my time to think, reflect, and enjoy nature. And back in Berkeley, in my office with Brian Stump, a geophysics graduate student whose career took him to SMU, we hosted a weekly California wine tasting party every Friday afternoon, and became happy connoisseurs of cabernets, zinfandels, and chardonnays. Louise and I became good friends with Pete Olson and his girlfriend Jan Gibson. Pete was a geophysics graduate student who later spent his career at Johns Hopkins. In the weekend afternoons in 1976 and the spring of 1977, the four of us hunted mushrooms in the hills above Berkeley, collecting Lactarius deliciosus varieties (milk mushroom species). Back in Pete and Jan's apartment, the mushrooms were cleaned, sliced, and cooked with spinach in omelets, then washed down with white wine. This was a time of great conversations with good wine and food.
Louise and I badly wanted to have a child together. She had given birth to a daughter in a previous marriage who had tragically passed in a crib death. Since then she had developed endometriosis, producing scar tissue in the fallopian tubes which made pregnancy difficult. In late 1975, Louise had an operation to clean out the scar tissue and this was now the time to have a kid. Would it be Little Princess or Little Dog? Well, the kid's college nickname was "Down-Town Dave" so you can guess how it turned out. In February of 1976, Louise and I with Pete and Jan drove south to Big Sur and stayed at Deetjen's Big Sur Inn on the cliffs above the Pacific. We hiked down to the beach, collected black mussels and steamed them later on the steam radiators in the rooms. David was conceived there, a good place to birth a soul.
David was delivered by Cesarean Section on November 8, 1976, at Alta Bates Hospital in Berkeley. He was a happy baby, hardly ever cried, just looked around and smiled at everyone. But that was until we had him circumcised! Don't believe the BS that newborn babies lack pain receptors to feel pain. David let us know that we had betrayed him and he would get his revenge. He didn't snap out of his funk until several weeks later when we laid him on a bar in Sausalito to have celebration drinks with Louise's Mom Lou Poorman. We let him sniff the tequila shots. Back in the apartment on Caldecott Lane, Louise generally took care of him during the day and I took care of him at night while writing my dissertation. The apartment complex had this rule of no children, so we had to hide him until we left California at the beginning of the next summer. But like clockwork, he would yell for 15 minutes every day at 4 PM. So, each afternoon, I would sneak him down to the underground garage, close the windows of the car, and let him scream his head off. We took him to department parties (where he once playfully tried to bite Ian Carmichael), and I carried him in a Snuggy while hunting mushrooms in the Berkeley hills.
I was not always the ideal father. Once when he wouldn't stop crying, out of exasperation, I kicked his crib. He sat up, looked straight at me, and held his breath, gradually turning beet-red. This "gorilla" whom his sweet mom tolerated for some unknown reason, had violated his personal space and an apology was needed. A horrendous scream came out of him. I extended a finger and he gummed down hard. Apology accepted!
A couple of years later, I was back in Berkeley for a conference and revisited the old apartment complex. I asked the manager if he was aware of our baby those last months. He laughed and said "Your wife didn't hide the fact at the swimming pool that she was pregnant." And we thought we had been so clever!